When a girl says let’s be friends and see where it goes, there is something she is hiding from you.
I will share what it means when a girl says let’s be friends and see where it goes and why she told you that.
Before I go too deep explaining to you what it means when a girl says let’s be friends and see where it goes, there are two sides to the coin.
The first side is that you have expressed your feelings to her and instead of her telling you yes or no, she told you that she wants to be friends first.
And the other side is that you both have a crush on each other, you haven’t expressed your feelings to each other and you don’t know how to go about it.
The girl senses that both of you want something more but you don’t know how to turn things around.
And that is why she says let’s be friends first and see how things will turn out to be.
So, now that I have gotten that out of the way, let me share what you should know when say this.
What does it mean when a girl says let’s be friends and see where it goes?
When a girl says let’s be friends and see where it goes it means she is not sure whether she should date you or not. She is unsure of how she feels about you and she needs more time to figure things out before she lets you into her life.
So, when a girl says let’s be friends and see where it goes it shows that she is ready to explore other options with you.
She is open-minded about how things will turn out to be between the two of you.
What you have to know is that she is not setting her mind on dating or friendship.
She is unsure whether she should friend-zone you or be in a relationship with you.
And that is why she says let’s be friends and see how it goes.
She knows that you have feelings for her, but she doesn’t know if she feels the same for you or not.
There is a little spark for you but it’s not that great yet. She doesn’t want to rush into things and then she finds out later that it was just a fling.
She needs more time to observe how you feel about her, how you will handle her, and how she will end up feeling about you.
If her feelings for you get intense, she will eventually flip from the friendship and go straight into dating you, but if it turns out that she doesn’t feel anything more than what she feels for you now, she will not consider dating you.
You will remain to be a friend to her and nothing more.
It’s just like when a girl says let’s be friends first. Right now, what she wants is friendship and as time goes by she will consider how she feels about you.
Why she says she wants to be friends for now;
1. She is not sure about what she feels for you.
When a girl says let’s be friends and see how it goes this is what she wants to do.
She wants to be sure of what she feels for you before she decides to be in a relationship with you.
Right now she doesn’t know if she should be with you or not.
She is stalling trying to figure out where she should place you. That is why she doesn’t want to say no or yes to you but gives you the option of a friendship first.
The closer you will be around her the easier it will be for her to gauge how she feels about you.
It can be that she feels something for you but it’s not that strong for her to make any decision based on it.
She doesn’t know whether it’s a fling or it’s something solid she feels about you.
The point is, she is not sure what she feels about you right now and that is why she wants you to give her time to focus and identify the real feelings.
What she wants from you is time. When she finally knows how she feels about you, she will open up to you and turn things around.
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That is why she added the phrase "and see where it goes," showing you that friendship is not the only thing she aiming for with you.
2. She wants to get to know you better.
When a girl says let’s be friends and see where it goes, how it goes, or how things will turn out to be it shows that you are not that bad.
You are someone she can consider to date and that is why she is open-minded about you.
The truth is that if she never saw you as someone she could be with, she couldn’t have added the last phrase.
She wants to see where it goes meaning she is open-minded about any direction the friendship is going to turn out to be.
If you will end up falling in love with each other as you are sailing on the boat of friendship well and good for her.
But if it turns out that you don’t feel each other as she expected, you will only get stuck in the friendship zone.
She wants to get to know you better, it’s true especially if you have just met and you are getting to know each other.
The truth is that she doesn’t want to move the relationship fast. She is afraid of how things might turn out to be without measuring how she feels about you.
She has put you in the friendzone for now to get to know you better.
This can be from how you will talk to her to how you will end up handling her.
From how you will treat her, that is what she will use to gauge if she should be in a relationship with you or not.
So, if she knows you better and she sees that you are someone she can connect and vibe with, she will turn things around.
And that is why she added the phrase ‘where it goes’ because friendship is not the only thing she is aiming for.
3. She wants to see how things will turn out as she is closer to you.
She wants to see how things will turn out as she is closer to you during the period of friendship before she decides to be in a relationship with you or not.
The vibe between the two of you now is great. It’s not bad and that is why she is open-minded about how things will turn out to be.
If you fall in love with each other she will be ready to handle that.
She says let’s be friends for now and see how things will turn out to because she is still measuring how intense things will get when she gets closer to you.
For now, she has no idea how deep she can go for you.
The roots of her feelings for you haven’t gone that deep for her to decide if she wants a serious thing with you or not.
At the same time, she doesn’t want to push you away because she is open-minded and ready to explore it with you.
She wants you closer to see if she will feel it more or if it will fade as she gets closer to you.
If she felt something for you, the more she gets closer to you the more she will start feeling you and this will end up blowing up.
That is when she will ask you to be her boyfriend because she will be sure that things between the two of you are lighting up and it’s no longer just a spark.
4. She wants to know what you truly feel for her.
The other case is that she knows how she feels for you but she doesn’t know what you feel for her.
She wants to be sure that you truly feel something for her and it’s not just a fling.
You are unclear to her about your intentions. She doesn’t know if it’s lust for you or love.
She says let’s be friends first and see how it goes since she knows the more you will be around her as a friend the more clear things will get.
If it was lust for you, it won’t take long before it fades away but if it’s love she will know due to how you will end up handling her.
If you expressed your feelings to her and she kinda felt like you were not being real with her because you have never shown her that you were into her, she will need time to check you out.
She will need time to observe you and figure out if you are what you say.
What she feels right now is that you are not serious about what you said to her.
But she didn’t want to tell you that, she knows that with time everything will be clear to her.
Guys are always impatient, if it is just lust, the truth will be revealed to her but if it is love, she will also know the truth.
5. She still has other issues to deal with.
When she says let’s be friends for now, it means she can’t be in a relationship with you for now.
There is something else that prevents her from making such a decision.
She wants to deal with what is holding her behind before she decides that she wants to be in a relationship with you.
It can be that there is someone she is trying to cut off before she gives in or there are several guys after her and she has to pick one.
This is not something that she can decide within a few days because she doesn’t know how she feels about you yet.
And that is why she is keeping you on hold for now, be friends with you for now as she deals with the other guys.
If it turns out that you are the only man standing, she will let you in, but if it turns out that her heart is won by someone else you will remain on the friendship lane.
You are not the only one noticing her, there are many guys out there who are yearning for her.
She needs time to pick one and that is why she needs you around as she decides who is going to be a good guy for her.
6. She doesn’t want to date you.
The last thing you should know is this, she doesn’t want to be with you and that is why she put you in the friendship zone.
The truth is that if she wanted to be with you, she wouldn’t have told you to be friends first.
She would have given you a chance the moment you showed her that you want something more from her.
It can be that she told you to be friends while she figure things out just to give you high hopes.
At the same time, she knew that if she says "and where how it goes," she will keep you around because you will always think there is something more brewing.
It’s either she wants you as a friend to use you for attention or money.
And that is why she said something to make you think that she is considering what you feel for her and when the time is right she will let you in.
The truth is that she doesn’t have the intention of dating you.
Some things are just as clear as they seem. If she wanted you, you would have been with her right now.
But that is not what she feels for you, she has friend-zoned you without you realizing it.
Now you know!
Conclusion
When a girl says let’s be friends and see how it goes, it means she doesn’t want to keep you in the friendship zone but she is ready to explore the options with you.
She is ready to get on with what you are planning with her to find out what you feel about each other.
If it turns out that she feels something for you, she will give it a shot but if it turns out that she doesn’t feel a thing for you will remain a friend to her.
The other thing is that she doesn’t want to be with you, she just wants to keep you around as a friend.
She told you that just to keep your hopes high and use you as you are struggling to win her over.
You should observe how she handles you, if there is something more, you will notice it, and if not you will also see it.
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